Yesterday when I announced my plan to sweep up under the dining table: “Please can I help you mummy, pleeeeease?”
“Please can I clean my chair?”
Then afterwards: “Please can we do some more cleaning mummy?”
When I relented and got out the vacuum cleaner: “Yaaaaaaaaay!”
What does it say about the state of my house if my 3-year-old responds like this to cleaning it?!
PS: Nursery’s ‘please & thank you’ training has obviously paid off. I was planning to go the unconditional parenting/lead by example route, but they got there before me and now I have the most polite and lovely child EVER.
… is what my daughter said today. Alas, she was only talking about my globe from which she attempted to remove the equator. Some sort of deeply insightful metaphor for life?
During our undergraduate days my then-fiancé and I had a tradition of spending one weekday morning every week sitting in our university’s guild of students reading the paper. At lunchtime we would have a pannini (then a novel and highly exciting foodstuff) and then go to our seminars. Nowadays, sadly, I don’t have time to read newspapers, so when I have a minute here and there I catch up with the Guardian on my phone.
That’s how today, while waiting for my soup to warm up, I came across this article about Naomi Stadlen‘s new book. I’d been intrigued by her previous book What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing for a while as it usually comes highly recommended by Mumsnetters and, again, the Guardian. Of course the title is just brilliant, making you wonder if reading the book will finally give you an explanation as to why you feel so knackered all the time.
What I really like about the review of Stadlen’s new book is that the significance of mothering is highlighted while the necessity of a father’s love is also acknowledged. Annalisa Barbieri, who wrote the review, notes the curious popularity of the term ‘parenting’. It might be easy to slide down the slippery slope of generalisations when talking about what mothers are like, what they do, and what they should do compared with fathers. All families are different. But I’m really glad that attention is given to the role which mothering, a mother’s love, plays in a child’s life because while most Western societies have evolved past the nuclear family of a SAHM/WOHD, in my view, mothers still play a special role, and this shouldn’t be forgotten (Stadlen has more detail regarding this on her website). I think I’ll have to order both of these books to find out more.